What Trauma Really Is—And What It Isn’t

Understanding the Subtle, Overlooked, and Everyday Experiences That Leave a Lasting Impact

Most people think trauma has to be something “big”—a car accident, a violent event, or military combat. But trauma isn’t defined by what happened. Trauma is defined by how your nervous system experienced it—and whether you had the support you needed to process it.

Some of the most lasting emotional wounds can come from moments that no one else even noticed.

Redefining Trauma

Trauma is often misunderstood. It’s not just about a single moment or event—it’s about the overwhelm, the isolation, and the lack of safety that followed.

We tend to recognize “big T” traumas—things like assault, loss, or natural disasters. But what often gets missed are the “little t” traumas that quietly shape how we move through the world.

These might include:

• Being consistently criticized or emotionally neglected as a child

• Living in a home where love felt conditional or unpredictable

• Having a medical procedure that left you feeling helpless or unsafe

• Going through a painful breakup or betrayal without support

• Experiencing racism, bullying, or chronic stress at work or home

You didn’t have to go through a war zone to carry a wound that matters.

What Trauma Can Look Like Now

Unprocessed trauma doesn’t always show up as flashbacks or panic attacks. It can be much more subtle—and often misinterpreted.

Common signs of lingering trauma include:

• Feeling constantly on edge or easily startled

• Fears or worries that feel out of proportion to the moment, but hard to shake

• Emotional numbness or feeling disconnected from yourself or others

• Struggles with trust, intimacy, or setting healthy boundaries

• Perfectionism, people-pleasing, or cycles of burnout and collapse

These are not flaws. They’re protective adaptations—your mind and body’s way of trying to keep you safe.

Healing Is Possible (and Doesn’t Have to Hurt)

You don’t have to relive your trauma to heal from it. One approach I offer in my practice is Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART). ART is a gentle and effective therapy that helps you process traumatic memories without needing to talk through every detail.

Using calming eye movements and guided visualization, ART helps your brain reprocess stuck memories and emotional patterns so that they no longer feel overwhelming or distressing.

Many clients report:

• Feeling calmer and more grounded

• Noticing reduced triggers or reactivity

• Experiencing deep emotional shifts—even after just a few sessions

Healing trauma isn’t about retelling the story—it’s about giving your nervous system a chance to finally exhale.

Finding Your Way Forward

Whether your trauma is rooted in a major event or a lifetime of quiet hurt, therapy can help you feel safer, stronger, and more connected to yourself again.

You don’t have to carry the weight alone.

If something in this post resonates with you—even if you’re not sure why—reach out. I offer a safe, compassionate space to explore what healing could look like for you.

Interested in learning more about trauma-informed therapy or ART?

Your story matters. Your healing matters.

And support is here when you’re ready.

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